I had the pleasure of being part of several weddings. Each time I witness a man and woman tying the knot, I wonder what and how their life is bound to change. Sure, you might be marrying the love of your life. Or would probably marrying a person with whom you would have felt a strange connection on that crucial day. Either ways, while the wedding is a mere ceremony, the bond called marriage is deeper than what it appears. Indian marriages were and are always about the family. Despite the fights, disagreements, and confusion, the marriage is bound to bring families closer. It was not only about the parents giving their daughter away but also about the in-laws embracing the new member of a family. But what is amazing is that in the end, be it love or arranged, everyone firmly believes that marriages are made in heaven.
A few weeks ago, I had experienced a most interesting sense of satisfaction. My friend had married a woman whom I would term to be his perfect half. While he fusses over traveling abroad, she ensures that he tags along when she does. When he chose to remain expressionless during religious rituals, she makes it fun and memorable. But most of all, when she stands next to him, he looks complete. He was always happy but now he is content and truly on cloud nine.
At a family friend's wedding, I could not help but notice how an average 3bhk could accommodate over 20 people, and be lively all the while. It was amazing to see how everybody including me became part of the celebrations in whatever way we could. Everybody was family. The event only brought the people closer. If I could say so - I felt more a part of this family than of my own. For reasons beyond explanation. Yes, my family is fun, but am confident that a wedding involving too many people would see the active participation of only two or three people. It would be a mere event and not an opportunity for people to bond and for the family to grow bigger.
All in all, I guess marriage is not only of what we want it to be, but also a bi-product of the blessings of all our forefathers and of destiny. :-)
